On Friday I worked remotely and had a good day. I went to the doctor, I went shopping for a birthday present for a one year old's birthday party this upcoming weekend (and found gifts I wanted to keep for myself! Hashtag unicorns...), got a lot of work done at a Starbucks, and got to go visit Heather and Luca, who was finally awake for a substantial amount of time!
AJ and I were supposed to go camping with friends for Anana's 10th birthday, which was Saturday, and had been planning it for a longgggg time.
That morning, however, AJ got a call from his mother, that his aunt had called and was hysterical, and all she could make out was that an ambulance was at their house, where the aunt lives with AJ's grandma. Plans were ditched and AJ headed to his grandma's house, updating me that she was being taken to the hospital but was unresponsive. About an hour later the next text I got was "She's gone." And that was it.
I think the weirdest part was that our friends from San Diego were in town and I didn't know what to do. I wasn't about to tell them to leave (although they offered) but I was in shock and at that point there was nothing more to be done, and it was just... weird. AJ's grandma was getting up there in age (in her 80s) but she was more or less fine, and still played piano at jazz clubs a few nights a week. Just last week I stopped by and sat and talked with her for awhile and she was lamenting that AJ and I live "too far" from her (btw, we live probably a 7 minute drive haha). But she helped raise AJ, and he and his mom and sister lived with her for a few years after his parents divorced, then his mom bought the house across the street, and AJ spent his summers with his grandma and grandpa driving around the country in their motorhome and learned to play gin and other card games, and he was even living with her for the past few years. He is, very understandably, shocked and upset.
We actually were able to get a little bit of a distraction that Saturday afternoon though. AJ came home from the hospital, took a shower, and was wanting to take the dogs to the beach (our friends brought their dog to help celebrate Anana's birthday- haha!). Oh, and they brought her a birthday gift, which was this ice cream cone toy and Anana, being the brat she is, is extremely defensive over food and toys, and this is her protecting her toy and and growling at Montezuma if Montey even so much as looked at Anana!
She got over it when the toys were removed though.
So we went down to Huntington Beach and got lunch at BJ's on the patio and walked around the beach for a little. The weather was actually hot! So it was nice to be at the beach.
Afterwards, we hung out at our place in our backyard for a bit, and then Pam and Doug headed back to San Diego.
On Sunday, we had been invited to a brunch, but weren't sure if we were going to be up for it. At the last minute, AJ was up for it, so we headed to Laguna Beach for a nice bottomless mimosa brunch followed by champagne at the Skyloft rooftop. It was beautiful.
We went back to our friends place for a little bit, and then AJ and I went to his grandma's house to be with his mom and aunt and help with some arrangements. AJ cooked dinner too. It was hard, and it's been weird. Even I am still in shock and upset. It doesn't feel real, and it was eerie that she wasn't there. We felt like any minute she would just come walking out and go sit on her recliner like always. Everyone was struggling, it's been hard.
So, it's been quite a Monday. AJ is home today and I'm at work, struggling, because it's always hard to go back to work after such loss when your eyes have been opened to what really matters...
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